When problems arise in our lives, we tend to lean on family and friends. But it can also be helpful to join a self-help or support group with others who are dealing with the same issues. People who share a common problem can help each other heal, problem solve, and provide support and strength to each other.

Purpose of Self-Help Groups

Self-help groups rely on self-disclosure. When the participants feel comfortable, they share the details of their situation as well as their feelings, worries, and attempts at healing or recovery. Hearing another person's story, concerns, successes, and failures makes us feel accepted and less alone in our own life and situation. This is especially helpful when circumstances, like a disability or illness, can feel isolating.

Types of Self-Help Groups

There are many self-help groups available today. They can range from independent gatherings to programs that partner with a larger organization. Locations can also vary, including individual homes, hospitals, places of worship, schools, and other nonprofits or centers. Some self-help groups have a professional present to offer guidance and knowledge. Others follow a peer-led style. Many people enjoy this because “veterans” help those newer to the group share their experiences and what's working for them. In this approach, both the “veteran” and the newcomer benefit.

Self-Help Group Models

Alcoholics Anonymous is probably the most well-known self-help model. Its 12-step program was later adopted and refashioned for other groups, including Narcotics Anonymous, Debtors Anonymous, and Overeaters Anonymous. Respecting confidentiality outside of meetings is a central tenet of this program. Groups are self-supporting and not reliant on outside means.

Groups addressing medical needs provide information related to living with a specific disease or illness. You might also learn about who to contact or where to go for assistance and advocacy. Simply networking with other people or families who share the same medical situation can be a life-giving source of encouragement.

People with less common life situations or diseases can find help through online support groups. If you're looking for complete anonymity, cyber-support can be a good option. Websites, chat rooms, and discussion boards offer 24-hour accessibility to allow people to support one another.

Joining a Self-Help Group

While a support group can be a wonderful experience, finding the right one for you is key. The following five strategies will help you connect with a group to meet your individual needs:

Ask a professional. The internet is an excellent tool for finding a self-help group. However, some websites might not be as current on local resources. Try talking to your physician, counselor, or therapist for their recommendation for a great fit. If they've referred other patients or clients to a specific group, they might have feedback to help you make a more informed decision.

1. Stay positive. Every group is unique. Perhaps you’ve found some strong personalities, intimidating people, unfriendly faces, or maybe the information wasn’t pertinent to you. If your first experience didn’t prove helpful, don’t be discouraged. Stay positive and continue looking for the ideal group. No group will be perfect, but you can find one that’s a great match for you.

2. Share at your pace.Participation in a self-help group is voluntary. There’s nothing wrong if you feel hesitant to share your story on your first or second visit. You should never feel pressured to open up about information you’re not ready to disclose. Even if you just listen, you can still get a lot of helpful information.

3. Speak up. There’s no question too small or too silly. If you don’t understand something or have a different perspective, it’s appropriate to ask or offer your input. You’ll get the most from your group experience when you participate. As long as you’re courteous with others, they will generally hear your question, concerns, or input with mutual respect.

4. Respect confidentiality. You’ll meet many people in your support group, some with fascinating stories. However, it’s inappropriate to share their experiences with others outside your group. You’re free to share your story, but respect your fellow group members’ privacy.

Walking through life’s trials and struggles is difficult. Sharing the journey makes it a little easier to handle. The right self-help group can play an important role in healing and provide strength along the way.

Sources:

Mental Health America. Find support groups. Accessed February 3, 2023. https://www.mhanational.org/find-support-groups

Mayo Clinic. Support groups: Make connections, get help. Accessed February 3, 2023. http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/stress-management/in-depth/support-groups/art-20044655

Helpguide.org. Support groups: Types, benefits, and what to expect. Accessed February 3, 2023. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/therapy-medication/support-groups.htm

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