Managing the Stress of Parenting

Parenthood provides many fulfilling and beautiful moments. It can also take over your life and up your stress level. There are times when you might have more trouble coping with the responsibilities and demands than others. Learning how to identify and handle stress in healthy ways can help you cope.

What Does Stress Look Like?

Below are some signs that you may be experiencing a high stress level:

• headaches, stomachaches, chest pain/heavy chest
• muscle tension/pain
• fatigue, changes in sleep patterns (sleeping more or less than usual)
• anxiety, restlessness, feeling overwhelmed
• irritability, anger
• lack of motivation or focus
• depression, sadness
• increase in drug or alcohol use
• changes in eating habits (eating too much or not enough)
• not participating in activities you used to enjoy

Stress is a normal reaction to environmental changes. It helps prepare the body to prioritize and respond and can be helpful in short bursts. However, sometimes stress can become constant. Long-term, it can lead to problems, including:

• high blood pressure
• weight gain
• heart disease
• diabetes
• other physical issues
• mental health issues

Can Your Stress Impact Your Children?

While many parents think they can hide it, children notice when parents are stressed. It can make you less understanding and more critical of your child and affect the quality of your relationship. It’s important to note that how you handle your stress is one of the first examples your children will see on how to handle their stress.

What Can I Do About Stress?

Even if you’re not feeling the effects of stress, incorporating the tips below into your family’s activities can help prevent stress and teach healthy coping skills.

• Do a self-assessment. Be aware of your habits. To blow off steam, do you yell, drink alcohol, smoke, vape, overeat? Paying attention helps you figure out what you might need to change.
• Take some “Me Time.” Parenting is a 24/7 job. Taking some time to be you, relax, and rejuvenate can make a significant difference in the quality of your parenting. Spend time with friends, read a book, go for a walk, take a bath, or reconnect with your spouse over a date night. If finding or affording a babysitter is a challenge, look into community events or gyms that offer free childcare.
• Build healthy habits. Developing a healthy, solid routine can prevent stress from taking over. Eat nutritious foods throughout the day. Stay hydrated, get enough sleep, and get regular physical activity. And as a bonus, most children respond well to consistent schedules.
• Increase quality time. Find creative ways to build quality family time into your schedule, such as saying no to extracurricular activities and yes to spending a night in with the family.
• Talk. If you’re feeling stressed or notice that your child is, talk about it. Help them understand what role emotions play in life.
• Get help. If your stress level does not seem to be improving, consider reaching out to your doctor, a counselor, therapist, or other mental health professional.

What If I’m a Single Parent?

Raising children on your own brings unique challenges. The following tips can help keep stress at a minimum:

• Budget. Money issues can add up quickly, so take the time to create and keep a budget. If you need job assistance or help paying for groceries or bills, contact employment agencies or local community services.
• Support systems. No one can parent totally alone. Join a single-parent group, keep regular contact with friends, and make other connections. Your pediatrician or doctor’s office can also provide helpful connections to community services.
• Childcare. Have a list of trusted babysitters ready.
• Consistent discipline. If your child alternates between each parent’s home, try to work together to provide consistent discipline methods.
• Talk. Allow your children to express their thoughts and feelings on changes in the family, and keep them in the loop where age appropriate.

Sources

Healthychildren.org. Stresses of single parenting. Accessed February 3, 2023. https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/types-of-families/Pages/Stresses-of-Single-Parenting.aspx
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American Psychological Association. Managing stress for a healthy family. Accessed February 3, 2023. http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/managing-stress.aspx
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Mayo Clinic. Stress symptoms: Effects on your body and behavior. Accessed February 3, 2023. http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-symptoms/art-20050987 Opens in a new window

Last updated: February 10, 2023

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