The elderly population is growing, and over 65 million Americans are caring for an aging loved one at home.

Caregiving comes with unique demands. You might take over finances, administer medication, or help with meals, cleaning, bathing, toileting, feeding, or dressing. And you may also be dealing with your loved one’s emotional needs as they lose their home, health, cognitive function, or ability to communicate. Roles often reverse as you become a “parent” to your aging loved one. And that can be especially stressful for both of you.

Signs of Caregiver Stress

Be aware that stress can put you at risk for depression and anxiety. Some symptoms may include:

fatigue
irritability
changes in sleep and weight
loss of interest in activities

Caring for Someone Else

In the best of circumstances, caregiving is a challenge. Here are some strategies that can help:

Involve your aging loved one. It might be hard, but honoring someone’s wishes gives them dignity.
Ask for Help. Assistance from doctors, home health aides, and physical and occupational therapists can be invaluable. Research assistive devices that will give your loved one more freedom to take care of themselves.
Communicate with Your Family. Navigating emotionally charged topics can be difficult. Aim for honest, respectful conversations. Be patient. Make your point without manipulating or coercing. Don’t attempt to “win” an argument. Instead, listen to everyone’s thoughts and ideas.

Caring for Yourself

Never feel guilty or apologize for taking care of you. You’ll only be able to care for someone else if you first take care of yourself.

Use teamwork. Ask others where they would like to help and let them.
Say goodbye to guilt. Focus on what you can do rather than what you can’t do.
Stay informed. Many nonprofit organizations offer classes on aging, dementia, and other caregiving topics.
Connect. Keep the people around you informed. Don’t assume they aren’t interested just because they don’t ask for information.
Update your doctor. Let your doctor be on the lookout for any stress symptoms you may develop.
Be healthy. Sleep, eat, and exercise.

Keep in Mind

As difficult as caregiving is, it’s a transitional time that won’t last forever. Knowing you’re not alone is crucial. Find a counselor or a support group for caregivers. And remember, while there will be sacrifices, the opportunity to spend this limited time with your aging loved one can be a priceless gift.

Looking for more information? Check out these resources:

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/stress-management/in-depth/caregiver-stress/art-20044784

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/parenting-family/family-caregiving.htm

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